The difference between knowing your issues and owning them

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I have been, let’s just say, going through a lot since 2021.

Yes, 2021.

2020 was strangely good. I was able to write a lot and cook a lot because, all this free time. My husband and I spent way too much time cuddling in front of the television while still being able to bring in a decent income.

Gratitude, 2020.

But towards the end of it though, horrible things happened. It was an old pattern/trigger of ‘familial drama’, something that plagues a lot of us. We know how to manage them. …

A manifesto on how to smile through an atrocious life

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The year was 1942. Nazis were occupying Europe. The Dutch government had already surrendered in 1940 and now, the Jews were being openly persecuted.

It was in July 1942 that 13-year-old Anne Frank and her family went into hiding in a Secret Annexe carved into her father’s office building. The reason: Anne’s sister Margot had received a notice to present herself before the SS (Schutzstaffel).

“Anne and her family lived in the Secret Annexe for 2 years before they were arrested and sent to Auschwitz”.

Anne’s life was difficult. There were eight people hiding in the Secret Annexe. People shared…

A Short Story about, well…

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She often wondered whether time had stopped. Aeons had elapsed since she’d met him, or so it seemed to her. She tried not to think about the future, but that was all she could think of. As if to dampen her spirits further, he seemed rather aloof on phone calls. Could it be that he had found out the truth about his father? Or the circumstances of her departure from his father’s life.

The thought nauseated her. The cookie in her mouth turned to ash. Anu picked her mobile phone and opened the photo gallery. Sarthak was staring at a…

Lionel Shriver delivers a deep dive into the psyche of a complex mother

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“I associated Kevin with my own limitations — with not only suffering, but defeat.”

If you are a crazy reader (like me), you will know the feeling I’m going to describe. It is the feeling of carrying a book inside your soul for years after you’ve read it. Maybe it is some sort of divine timing — you needed to read this book at the time. Maybe the storyline is on a topic that touches a particular nerve with you. But you know that feeling, right?

This book has been one of those rare stories for me.

Lionel Shriver’s ‘We…

And I just cannot shrug it off

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‘The Courage To Be Disliked’ has been doing the rounds like crazy. Everyone in my book club is talking about it. The book has sold over 3.5 million copies in Asia (majorly in Japan and Korea). After its release in the US in 2018, the book is an international phenomenon.

Basically, its a conversation-style book that dissects Alfred Adler’s philosophy for a happy life. Adler was one of the three giants of psychology along with Sigmund Freud and Carl Jung. However, Adler did not agree with Freud’s theories and formed his own school of thought, known as Adlerianism / Individualism.

A flight to forever

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The curtains fluttered like quivering butterflies as gusts of wind rushed into Aashna’s bedroom. As if it was deliberate, the gust attacked a bundle of Reader’s Digest stacked in a corner, all copies of the same edition. Aashna’s mother beamed out from the lustrous cover of a February 1990 issue.

A reminder of the woman who’d abandoned Aashna on her 18th birthday. The note had read — “I can’t face the world on my own. I need someone. Someday you’ll understand.

The wind lashed through the pages of Aashna’s latest manuscript. Unbound papers flew across the bedroom. …

Lauren Groff’s Delicate Edible Birds is an ode to realism

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She is a fairly acclaimed writer, but I came across Lauren Groff quite randomly. I was scrolling through the Fiction & Poetry section of the New Yorker when I fell in love with a short story of hers. It’s about four high school besties who reunite ~after decades~at the bedside of their terminally ill friend.

Lauren’s small-ish fiction repertoire has fetched her the Orange Prize for fiction and the New York Times Bestseller title. Delicate Edible Birds (curious title, right?) is her first short story collection. The stories have won numerous accolades even before they were published in this collection…

Please, for once, don’t tell me everything is going to be fine.

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Three days ago, I was diagnosed with Hashimoto’s Disease. It’s an auto-immune disorder where the body’s own immunity attacks the production of thyroid hormone. Two days ago, I started my thyroid supplement (they insist on calling it a supplement). I’m going to have to take it for the rest of my life.

Now, let me confess that I freak out over my health. I mean it. I work out 5 times a week. I’m a big walker. I track my nutrition. I eat healthy, home-cooked meals and what-have-you. Basically, I go the extra mile for fitness.

Naturally, I’ve been pretty…

Murakami’s Norwegian Wood is a thesis in grief

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“Until that time, I had understood death as something entirely separate from and independent of life. The hand of death is bound to take us, I had felt, but until the day it reaches out for us, it leaves us alone. This had seemed to me the simple, logical truth.

Life is here, death is over there. I am here, not over there.

The night Kizuki died, I lost the ability to see death (and life) in such simple terms. Death was not the opposite of life. …

Oh yes, this story is worth your time. And much more.

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Normal People is one of those novels that makes you feel really fantastic at first - like the first few shots of Tequila - and then somewhere in the middle of the party, you just get sick of it all and want to throw up all over people’s shoes.

But that’s not the important part.

The important part is that when you finish it, you cannot simply put it down and forget about it.

It stays. In you. It stays.

That probably is one of the most excruciating and…

Sonia Chauhan

I eat diamonds for breakfast. Lawyer. Writer. Popular Loner. Top Writer on Quora ~ 2016, 2018.

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